Reasoning Emotions

Emotions plays a major role in our life, life without emotions is meaningless to some but for others life without emotions is better off sometimes. No matter how we view emotions, it always take a big control of our life and the way we function about the things especially for the feel-ies. We tend to let it take control or assume our being like a person inside who jumps out and we turn monster or weak, that is why i decided that i should post something i call 'Reasoning Emotions'.

One weakness i have in me is letting my emotions control me and take the better of me, in one instance is pressure and envy. Just the notice or look at friends coupling up together in a relationship instantly triggers the emotional button in me and downward i slide into emotion highway but nevertheless that feeling must be reason with and not linger in it to eat you up bit by bit such as the jealousy monster who slowly bites you around until you are green with envy or jealousy.

Reasoning with emotions is a difficult task because on one hand you are already in this ball of emotions and secondly you have to reason with yourselves as well, however we can never assume ourselves as the weaker half and let emotions take the stronger half of us because we are suppose to be or forcefully take control of our emotions and be logical at those critical times of weakness, addiction or distraction.

Reason with yourself at those times where you feel like letting in those negative emotions and use the logical power to overcome situations which will leave you feeling embarrass or stupid or both, never ever give in to these negative emotions too much, 'a little can go a long way', use a little to better equip and improve yourself.

Always start with the simplest question " Do I have to feel this way?" This question is like the introductory or opening up to yourself, identifying the emotions felt and starting the logical process of reasoning the emotions.

Then we can move onto " Why am i feeling this way?" After kick starting the logical part of ourselves and identifying the emotions, we can move on to the source which triggered the emotions. Knowing the source of one thing is already winning half the battle, the source can tell a lot about yourself and open your eyes to things you never knew about yourselves.

After knowing the source, we must ask ourselves "What triggered it all in the first place?" The source holds many information about the inner part of ourselves, there must be certainly a deep past or a longing in us that triggers these emotions.

Knowing the trigger and trigger-y is essential because now you know what is causing all these hullabaloo and that take us into our next part which is " How can I go about it?" These step mainly involves a solution to your problem or for some a alternative to your existing problem, there can be the simplest step of talking to someone on the same page or a simple prayer. "The power of prayer cannot be looked down on as it says in the bible that it can move mountains and miracles can happen if you have faith!"

That leaves us with one more step in the reasoning process, "What is the proper way of facing it next time?" This step include us taking and making a personal step of not taking in anymore of these negative emotions which might hinder us. A simplest long term solution such as not lingering too long in that problem or going for a simple jog can be used to rid the emotions out of us.

For example, I am pressured by my friends who are in relationship.

1. Do i have to feel this way? "NO"
2. Why am I feeling this way? "I want to experience the feeling as well and I feel left out"
3. What triggered it in the first place? "I tried to be in one but never succeed"
4. How can I go about it? "I should talk to someone about this, do something I like and etc"
5. What is the proper way of facing it? "I shouldn't envy them but congratulate them and wish them the best, I should be patient for the right one to come at the right time"

So there you go, 5 simple steps of reasoning emotions. I hope that this can help those who are sometimes buried deep into the emotional state that they forget the logic side of things and focus too much on the negative and emotional side of things but if all else fails "PRAY AND FOCUS ON GOD" It never hurts to turn to the on who love you the most, shifting your focus on something more important distracts the situation and then slowly help us forget about it.

HAPPY 2011 and a BLESSED ROAD AHEAD!