A student wakes up in the morning, sighs at the knowledge of facing school for a day, washes up and putting on his uniform with a sleepy eye and head, taking heavy steps down for breakfast, into the car and off to school. He arrives in school, sit downs in class, takes a few winks after greeting his friends, who joins in the slumber as well, goes for the morning assembly and after that the first bell rings for the start of a new day for him and his friends, having fun in class while trying his best to listen to boring subjects and at the end of the day goes back home to his loving bed and room around lunch time, just in time for another activity in the afternoon. He arrives home for dinner after an exhausting day of school, clubs, sports and a day of socializing with friends, without a worry about money or priorities, he takes his dinner and goes to bed but not before surfing the net, chatting with friends and playing his X-box. The cycle repeats, with different subjects, different activities and many a new friends to meet.
On the other side of life, 2 years down the road.
A working man wakes up in the morning, washes up, dress up in his attires, neat with tie for the appointments of the day, takes a quick drink for breakfast before walking off to work. He reaches his office, thinking of taking a few quick breaths before starting the day but soon gets bomb down with leftover work and assignments from the day before and new jobs to do for the day. He works very hard to finish the leftover jobs as quick as possible so not to delay the new job too long or else the quota for the day will not be meet, he goes here and there with the speed of lightning, he finishes the old job with only the chance to take a quick deep breath before moving on to the new job. He only has lunch break to look forward to everyday before he is needed in the office again to finish off newer jobs, making the new job he got a first, old and leftover jobs. He arrives home, sweaty, tired, mind filled with priorities, work, family, money, bills and thoughts of tomorrow before eating his dinner and goes to sleep. The cycle repeats again with a new day, new jobs, old jobs, challenges for the day and weary thoughts.
For those who don't know, i am now currently working part time as client support and operations officer at a training cooperation in atria, its only been two weeks now but work feels like it has been over a month long and now do i truly understand the value of money, how tough it is to even get that sum of money to survive a month, to live for a month. Working life has definitely though me a lot and one of which is to enjoy every single moment i have as a student when i enroll into University, truly none can compare a students life with a working life or vice versa but one things for sure, I learn that working is not so easy as it seems to be and hard work is always needed everyday, your 100% is to be given in that office everyday, if not you wont finish your job fast and on time.
However I am grateful that even though I only hold a spm, stpm and a few co-curriculum certs under my belt that i am able to find a part time job in the office with a reasonable pay. Truly this is God given to mature me once again in life plus learning to be independent and many more which is to come. One of the greatest thing as a christian worker in a non-christian organization is that I learn we work not to please men but to please God, we are always so caught up with pleasing the boss when we forgot the real true master we need to please is God, so no matter what happens at works, we know we have done our best to God and whatever happens is always according to Gods plan.
2 weeks into the job, what are my comments? I am learning and gaining so much from God, the pay is just a side prize, the real prize is what i gain from this experience and how did I shine as a christian in that work place.
To all my fellow friends working out there, remember to always be who you are and not conform to the pattern of this world.
Sometimes in my most needed time of answered prayers, God doesn't seem to answer or keeps silent and I learn a lot from this time of silence and prayer.
The first thing we react to the situation is that God does not care, but deep down God is listening every word you pray Loud and Clear, He does not want to make life miserable, He wants you to be filled with joy and be blessed all the time but the prayer we pray sometimes cannot be answered now or God has greater and better plans for you.
God does not answer our prayers not only because He has a better plan for us but sometimes its just a matter of patience and trust in Him, knowing that He will provide in the right time because He guides our path. Even though it seems like God has left you, He never has, He was always there to spur and support you on, its just a matter of your patience and trust because whatever God does is for the greater good of us all.
So i want to encourage all the people out there who feel like giving up on prayer and feel like God has left them, who feel like their prayer are just hot air rising to the sky un-answered, I encourage your to trust in God and keep the faith because in due time we will reap, if we sow patiently.
Emotions plays a major role in our life, life without emotions is meaningless to some but for others life without emotions is better off sometimes. No matter how we view emotions, it always take a big control of our life and the way we function about the things especially for the feel-ies. We tend to let it take control or assume our being like a person inside who jumps out and we turn monster or weak, that is why i decided that i should post something i call 'Reasoning Emotions'.
One weakness i have in me is letting my emotions control me and take the better of me, in one instance is pressure and envy. Just the notice or look at friends coupling up together in a relationship instantly triggers the emotional button in me and downward i slide into emotion highway but nevertheless that feeling must be reason with and not linger in it to eat you up bit by bit such as the jealousy monster who slowly bites you around until you are green with envy or jealousy.
Reasoning with emotions is a difficult task because on one hand you are already in this ball of emotions and secondly you have to reason with yourselves as well, however we can never assume ourselves as the weaker half and let emotions take the stronger half of us because we are suppose to be or forcefully take control of our emotions and be logical at those critical times of weakness, addiction or distraction.
Reason with yourself at those times where you feel like letting in those negative emotions and use the logical power to overcome situations which will leave you feeling embarrass or stupid or both, never ever give in to these negative emotions too much, 'a little can go a long way', use a little to better equip and improve yourself.
Always start with the simplest question " Do I have to feel this way?" This question is like the introductory or opening up to yourself, identifying the emotions felt and starting the logical process of reasoning the emotions.
Then we can move onto " Why am i feeling this way?" After kick starting the logical part of ourselves and identifying the emotions, we can move on to the source which triggered the emotions. Knowing the source of one thing is already winning half the battle, the source can tell a lot about yourself and open your eyes to things you never knew about yourselves.
After knowing the source, we must ask ourselves "What triggered it all in the first place?" The source holds many information about the inner part of ourselves, there must be certainly a deep past or a longing in us that triggers these emotions.
Knowing the trigger and trigger-y is essential because now you know what is causing all these hullabaloo and that take us into our next part which is " How can I go about it?" These step mainly involves a solution to your problem or for some a alternative to your existing problem, there can be the simplest step of talking to someone on the same page or a simple prayer. "The power of prayer cannot be looked down on as it says in the bible that it can move mountains and miracles can happen if you have faith!"
That leaves us with one more step in the reasoning process, "What is the proper way of facing it next time?" This step include us taking and making a personal step of not taking in anymore of these negative emotions which might hinder us. A simplest long term solution such as not lingering too long in that problem or going for a simple jog can be used to rid the emotions out of us.
For example, I am pressured by my friends who are in relationship.
1. Do i have to feel this way? "NO" 2. Why am I feeling this way? "I want to experience the feeling as well and I feel left out" 3. What triggered it in the first place? "I tried to be in one but never succeed" 4. How can I go about it? "I should talk to someone about this, do something I like and etc" 5. What is the proper way of facing it? "I shouldn't envy them but congratulate them and wish them the best, I should be patient for the right one to come at the right time"
So there you go, 5 simple steps of reasoning emotions. I hope that this can help those who are sometimes buried deep into the emotional state that they forget the logic side of things and focus too much on the negative and emotional side of things but if all else fails "PRAY AND FOCUS ON GOD" It never hurts to turn to the on who love you the most, shifting your focus on something more important distracts the situation and then slowly help us forget about it.
