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Today at the gym, I met a normal gym goer, we've been talking for sometime just that i never knew him in detailed and i found out that he is handsome, got a job, got a great body, got a good life, got a fiance, well the way i see it is that he is successful.I have to admit i was envious, he had enough for his whole life, went to college, got a job, got a girl, got the looks, got the body but I would've never know how far it took him to get to where he is but one things for sure is that he didn't have to endure Form 6 even this dude which was i thought was smart said form 6 is tough and he wish me all the best in getting in the local u, that proves just how much work and effort is needed for form 6 but would it be any easier in college? I'll never know.
Back to the topic on about success, I had in my mind one word when i was talking to my new found friend "SUCCESS!" yes that one word which Dexter would yell out at the top of his lungs when his invention worked in the cartoon. Then it got me thinking and weighing the options in my life, whether i can achieve what my friend had, somehow he sort of shaped out what i would want to achieve when i start working which i think would not be any different than any eager young blood. Yet how do we weight success? Is there any criteria to concluded whether one is success or not?
Success can never be categorized as a whole, we can never say we are success in a whole, every person has a "blocking wall" in life but success comes out of not only what we posses, not only what we achieve, not how many figure we have in our bank, not many kids we have, not only the job we hold but the way we are living out our life. Why would i say my friend is success, well materially he has enough but he might think otherwise, maybe he has not achieve the job he wants. So success is based in the way you are living and how you perceive success as
It can be merely based on material gaining, you have the "5C's" the criteria which many would set for their partner! CASH! CAR! CONDO! CREDIT CARD! well i can remember 4C's! Many people would view this needless to say this blogger as well. When we get our first car, our first pay, our first salary, our first spending, we feel the surge of satisfaction or as we call "Success" when we finally posses what we want, when we want and with our own money. Some people get it easy, they have their parents to buy for them but this blogger does not have that privilege of getting everything he wants, there is a limit to getting what i want but parents do feed us and always take care of us, no harm trying to ask but be careful what you wish for.
Success can only be measured in our achievements, something in life we work hard to gain, get it, win it and we feel the glory behind it all, feeling the success of achieving the goal we set. The harsh reality is that not all things go as plan but give your best and we will never go wrong.
Nevertheless, "success" is a really big word and it is a big big world out there, at one point we would reach a age where we would start working, start planning out the big life we have ahead but this the way i see it, success doesn't comes from short cuts but from giving it your best, when you work the best you can, success follows along. Success comes with the benefits of enjoyment and pleasure in life but it always comes with hard work, planning and opportunity in life.
So are you success in life? Yes or no, living out your life daily is already a success!
Today i stumbled upon the movie "Marley and me" The movie really touched my heart and remind me of my own Dalmatian dog whom also passed away of old age. He was with me for more than 10years, from the day i enter high school to the day i left to further my study, he was always there and i really loved what Owen Wilson said at the end of the movie.
A dog don't care if you're rich or poor, clever, dull, smart or dumb...give him your heart and he'll give you his."
"How many people can you say that about?"
"How many people can make you feel rare and pure and special?"
"How many people can make you feel extraordinary?"
Truly whatever was said in those lines is true to the day Happy left this world for a better place, He never ever made me feel any pain at all when i come home, just the sight of him when i come home really puts a smile on my face, he was always there to cheer me up when i was down, he was always there for pats, hugs and kisses. I just wished I could have given him more, given him a better life, given him much more before he left, loved him more and show him that i love him too.
Dear Happy,
I know you are up there in heaven, a better place than here. I never got to say "I love you and i am sorry for all the pain i caused to you, I never got to say how special you are to me, how great of a friend you are to me and you will always be in my heart" Till the day we meet in heaven, you will always be right next to my heart and i will never forget you. Thank you for making my days so much better, thank you for showing love when none cared, thank you for everything. Truly you are my best friend. Rest in peace Happy and i will meet you there one day. I love you.
Today i had the "privilege", actually i would not say that after considering how many times i have been in this state. Most if not many will know when i say "B.R.E.A.King P.O.I.N.T" I am sure you would understand that state which we are in when we just cant handle the stress or the pressure anymore.
That was what i felt today and finally realize it after such a long time and many times of experiencing it, and the first thing that went through my mind was " I WANT OUT! I WANT TO QUIT!" No more gym, no more weights, no more cardio, no more running, no more cycling, no more pain staking exercises, no more! and it happens when we're half way there, when we're at the last few moments and we just don't see it, all we see and feel is the disappointment and pain.
That was only the point when everything just starts to flood in, emotions start to flare and anything and everything negative, you think about it and forget about all the good things, it is common when we are in that point. That is how athletes, professional sportsman, or even a normal guy or girl would feel once in a while, we all have our breaking points no matter how tough we are.
That is why we can never question the way a drill sergeant, a coach or even a teacher teaches their players or students, they nag,nag,nag,nag,nag and oh yeah NAG so more to the point where you feel like fighting back or want out but they do it for a reason, they don't just do it because they like it, OK giving the doubt of the benefit, some do but those are psychos, a little bit not right in their thinking machine.
So what is the reason for their constant yelling and degrading, they just keep on ranting how much you suck and how much you are a loser but they do it because they want to train your mental strength because when you are in a competition, exam, or even at your breaking point, your mind becomes the main playground, you would be constantly questioning yourself, you would be thinking of excuses to quit and that's when you're suppose to say "NO! I AM PUSHING ON!" You need to just push yourself and you realize by the end of the day, you did it with all you can with the best you can even though at that point it really sucks to be pushing on especially when you are pushing yourself.
That is when all the yelling and degrading insults that your dear dear Dear trainers and teachers come in hand, their insults and yelling teaches you to push yourself on because in a training you have to train even when they are shouting their lungs out, that is when sub-consciously your mind is being train to push and force your way through, not only that your body kick in with hormones and pumps the chemicals you need to push it on.
Here is my own account, i was in the gym doing a new set of exercises involving high repetitions and it was really tiring and killing me to the point where i wanted to quit, i just did not want to come to the gym anymore, i just wanted out but i told myself to just finish it, i did and it made me feel good about myself because i am one step closer to achieving a long term goal and whatever I've endure would be useful in the near future or even sooner.
Dear friends, i pray that God will give you the strength and hope you need to carry on and push on to the end of the line or even the end of the day wherever you are whatever your doing, if you feel like no one believes you or no one cares about you, I do even if i don't know you because i believe that no matter how hard it is, you can do it and become the champion that you are and a little prayer goes a long way. God bless you.
P.S
Pushing is hard, regretting is harder
